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The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) has the best example for Muslims. The Prophet is a human being like the people he addresses. Strong communication between spouses is very important for the continuation of family life. Communication problems are one of the biggest problems in today's family. The family is where human relations begin and are learned. Communication is an indispensable element of life for people and has an indispensable place in both personal and social life. The most important problem of the modern family is poor communication among its members. However, the deficiencies in tolerance, respect and love within the family lead the society away from basic values. Dialogue between individuals in the family should be strong, and it should be shown that children's views are valued. It is possible to see the sample of the family structure that Islam wanted to create in the family of the Prophet (pbuh). The communication between the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and his wives is an important issue that needs to be emphasized in this regard. It is seen that the Prophet consulted with his wives and valued their opinions. The Prophet (pbuh) made an effort to be fair among his wives and to treat them equally. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) had nine wives before he moved to the Hereafter. He used a watch system to stay with them at night, as he tried to treat them with justice. After his shift was over, it took eight days for the same lady to get her turn. The thing that most tired the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) in his married life and that he struggled the most to overcome was the feeling of jealousy among his wives. Jealousy is an emotion that exists in human nature. When this feeling is experienced where necessary, it gives positive results. The wives of the Prophet were sensitive about the days of the watch. These days, even the suspicion of a visit to one of other wives by the Prophet was enough for them to get jealous. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) used a watch system to stay among his wives at night, as well as drawing lots to choose who would accompany him on expeditions. It is seen that the Prophet (pbuh) treated his wives equally and fairly in matters related to food, clothing and other alimony he offered them, starting with the mahr he paid while getting married. One of the responsibilities of spouses to each other in a marriage is to take care of their personal care and to appear in front of their spouse in the most beautiful and well-groomed state. It is understood that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) paid maximum attention to his self-care in matters such as cleaning, hair and beard care, and oral hygiene. We see that the Prophet (pbuh) not only took care of his wives' material needs such as alimony, but also did not neglect to chat with them by being their life partner and was interested in their spiritual needs. The Messenger of Allah valued his wives and made them feel this with his way of addressing them and his courtesy, which was way ahead of his time. It was the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) who destroyed the bias against women in the society of that day and had the biggest share in bringing women to the place they deserved in society and in the family. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) was careful to take care of his wives and to do his duty as a wife. He (pbuh) valued his wives, spared time for them, and did not spare their conversation. There was absolutely no place for violence in the family life of the Messenger of Allah (pbuh). It is understood that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) did not raise his hand against anyone except for the jihad he waged against the enemy, let alone his wives and slaves.

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